It is one of those issues women have to deal with in their relationships. The possibility that he may be cheating on you. Ladies are known to have a sixth sense on such matters. But just like learnt to fly without perching in Chinua Achebe’s land, many men will be able to deceive their ladies on whether they are cheating or not. But there are some general signs that can guide to nail even the most phony guy if he is having an affair outside of your relationship.

1. Lack of intimacy. This doesn’t always have to be in the form of sex. It can be a decline of touching, cuddling, holding hands or kissing.
2. He cheated on his old girlfriends. If you can talk to some of his old girlfriends, by all means, do it. However, make sure to ask his ex-girlfriends in a kind and calm manner so they do not become defensive. A cheating boyfriend will usually repeat their behavior with their next girlfriend.

3. He never answers his cell phone around you. A way to tell if your boyfriend is cheating is if he always turns his ringer off around you or walks out of hearing distance from you. These are big big red flags he may be cheating. If he receives calls at odd hours or speaks on the phone in a strange manner could also be signs he is cheating.

4. He is irritable or criticizes you more. If your boyfriend’s behavior suddenly changes, there is a possibility that he may be finding fault with you in order to justify his cheating in his mind. That way your cheating boyfriend can say you ‘drove’ him away because of your supposed faults. The opposite of this behavior is being overly nice, giving gifts and being lovey-dovey because he wants to keep his cake (you) and eat it too (his other girlfriend).

5.He does not introduce you to his friends. This might be because he already has a girlfriend they know about, or it might be because he knows they will not be able to keep his secrets. Either way, he will always have some reason why you cannot meet them.

6.All of your dates and other activities are planned around his schedule. He decides when you do anything. If you suggest something or casually drop by his place (if he even tells you where his place is), you are likely to get some flimsy excuse. If it seems like he is scheduling you around his other women, he probably is.

7. On the Phone and Computer All the time: If you husband is starting to spend more and more time on the phone and internet without any specific reason, then star to see if he is doing something wrong. These days people can cheat on their wives that easy with the internet online dating and phone sex available. See if he is trying to find online date.

8. More and More Anger: Is he getting angry easier than ever? It could be that he is not interested in you anymore and found someone else. Now he is showing his anger on you because he could not get in touch with that women because he considers you as a road block. He might be desperate to date the other women. Irritation might be a big sign that you might not want to ignore.

9.He changes his physical appearance.A cheating man usually starts buying new clothes, gets a new hair style or begins working out because he wants to be attractive to the other woman in his life besides you.

10. He avoids you. A big sign of a cheating boyfriend is when he makes up all sorts of excuses as to why he can’t be with you because he’s spending time with his ‘other’ girlfriend. If he has to work late, stay after school, is always with his friend’s or co-workers more than usual, these could be the excuses your boyfriend is using to cover up his cheating ways.